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Thunderspirit
23-05-2005, 10:18 PM
A deomcratic marriage?? I thought the wife just decides, and the guy just has to go along with it??

jenni
24-05-2005, 11:57 AM
A deomcratic marriage?? I thought the wife just decides, and the guy just has to go along with it??

Not if you want to stay married for long..... (Tony and I are approaching 25 years :eek: )

pax
25-05-2005, 11:50 AM
Not if you want to stay married for long..... (Tony and I are approaching 25 years :eek: )

No, if you want the marriage to last, you make the bloke *think* he's making the decisions right ;)

Libby
25-05-2005, 01:02 PM
No, if you want the marriage to last, you make the bloke *think* he's making the decisions right ;)

obviously a man in the know ...

or a man who lets a woman "think" she is letting him "think" he is making the decisions ...

jenni
25-05-2005, 08:55 PM
obviously a man in the know ...

or a man who lets a woman "think" she is letting him "think" he is making the decisions ...

Ahh - too machiavellian for me. How about honesty, respect and negotiations?

Mischa
25-05-2005, 09:22 PM
I once heard it said that compromise means no one is happy.

Mischa
25-05-2005, 09:23 PM
Should this be in the 'girl's only thread?'

Denis_Jessop
25-05-2005, 10:34 PM
Should this be in the 'girl's only thread?'

Mischa, I had the same thought. Here we are with Libby asking a serious chess question and look where we have ended up. On the other hand it might be noted that this diversion was started by Liberace expounding his philosophy of marriage. Perhaps he could join the Girls Only thread as an invited guest :rolleyes: :hmm:

DJ

Mischa
25-05-2005, 10:53 PM
Hmmmm....inviting a male?
you are all free to post but an actual invitation?

Rincewind
26-05-2005, 08:25 AM
This seems to be more of a 50/50 thing than a bona fide girls only domain. But I take the point that a split is not a bad thing.

Thunderspirit
26-05-2005, 09:30 AM
Oh dear.... I crack a joke, and its split into a thread of it's own?? :crazy:

Bill Gletsos
26-05-2005, 11:10 AM
Oh dear.... I crack a joke, and its split into a thread of it's own?? :crazy:Spoken, like a mere male who didnt know what he was getting himself into. :lol: ;)

antichrist
26-05-2005, 11:39 AM
When happy marriages (all marriages are happy) break up usually the hubbie has to cough up. What I find perplexing is that the longer the marriage lasts the more he has to cough up. I can understand some grounds for it but crudely speaking the longer he (always he) is married in a battling marriage the more he has to cough up, hardly an incentive for keeping a battling marriage going. Wouldn't this be called "being on a thrashing to nothing".

jenni
26-05-2005, 12:20 PM
When happy marriages (all marriages are happy) break up usually the hubbie has to cough up. What I find perplexing is that the longer the marriage lasts the more he has to cough up. I can understand some grounds for it but crudely speaking the longer he (always he) is married in a battling marriage the more he has to cough up, hardly an incentive for keeping a battling marriage going. Wouldn't this be called "being on a thrashing to nothing".

Not too aware of what happens in divorces, but I had this idea that the man mainly "coughs up" for the kids? Or do you view kids as owned by the woman and the man should procreate without responsibility?

jenni
26-05-2005, 12:22 PM
I once heard it said that compromise means no one is happy.

The idea in a compromise is that you create a "win win" situation. The old OK corrall as it used to be called in team building seminars I went to BC

jenni
26-05-2005, 12:23 PM
Should this be in the 'girl's only thread?'

Why? - marriages are 50% male.......(well most anyway).

antichrist
26-05-2005, 12:35 PM
Not too aware of what happens in divorces, but I had this idea that the man mainly "coughs up" for the kids? Or do you view kids as owned by the woman and the man should procreate without responsibility?

OOOh, I have got a bite, whacko. I am in one of those moods this morning as not much to do as my job got sabotaged.

I think for the purposes of the Family Court the kids are "owned"by the mother in 90% of cases. Which is usually the better position as they do come out of HER body. It would be a louse of a man who would take a kid away from it's mother.

I don't know the exact components of a settlement, it is supposed to be something like 18% for each child plus something extra for the mother for knocking them out. The father gets nothing for his procreation effort so maybe it is unfair.

I remember a female lawyer years ago writing to the SMH. She had been the major breadwinner in her marriage and the hubbie looked after the kids. Upon divorce she "lost" the kids and a hugh settlement, she stated in the letter how she now understood how many husbands were bitter after going down that road.

I am not in the mood for a serious discussion as almost nosebag time but you know how I can't resist a stir.

A friend married a working girl from overseas whom he had only known for 2 weeks and she had robbed him as well on that occasion. Would you believe they been together for about 17 years at least.

Brian_Jones
26-05-2005, 02:37 PM
Someone once told me that marriage is overrated. But I guess in Canberra it is underrated (like the chess players?)

jenni
26-05-2005, 02:41 PM
I think for the purposes of the Family Court the kids are "owned"by the mother in 90% of cases. Which is usually the better position as they do come out of HER body. It would be a louse of a man who would take a kid away from it's mother.

Hmm - sorry I have known some mothers who shouldn't be allowed near a kid and some very wonderful fathers. As a general thing I think kids probably do better with the mother, but not always. Of course a loving relationship with both is ideal. Gareth recently told me that mothers are great for hugs and cuddles, but Dads are just more fun....

Rincewind
26-05-2005, 07:08 PM
Oh dear.... I crack a joke, and its split into a thread of it's own?? :crazy:

I think this thread has already shown your original 'joke' has legs.

antichrist
26-05-2005, 07:21 PM
Jenni, you avoided the controversial parts, I was hoping for juicy to's and throes. You are learning but boring.

jenni
26-05-2005, 09:27 PM
Jenni, you avoided the controversial parts, I was hoping for juicy to's and throes. You are learning but boring.
I aim to be boring at the moment - anything else is bad for my blood-pressure......(which I think is where this all started).

Denis_Jessop
27-05-2005, 04:22 PM
I aim to be boring at the moment - anything else is bad for my blood-pressure......(which I think is where this all started).

That's right Jenni. Now I believe almost everything you say but your blood pressure figures leave me wondering. Mine is about 120/78 I think so, if yours is what you say, you should have smoke coming out of your ears and be looking rather like your Avatar, which I can assure viewers, you don't ;)

DJ

jenni
27-05-2005, 04:44 PM
That's right Jenni. Now I believe almost everything you say but your blood pressure figures leave me wondering. Mine is about 120/78 I think so, if yours is what you say, you should have smoke coming out of your ears and be looking rather like your Avatar, which I can assure viewers, you don't ;)

DJ

I am deeply envious Denis! Unfortunately Blood Pressure is known as the silent killer, because there are no outward signs, although causes internal damage.

So although I might look (and even feel ) calm and un hyena like, unfortunately my blood pressure is the pits. I am currently refusing to go on medication, as I am sure I can get it down. (Exercise, lose weight etc. ). However I haven't dared take it today, as I am sure it is not going to be good after an emotional afternoon.

Tony and I have reached a compromise with Belconnen Chess Club. I am taking a book with me and promising to spend at least 1/2 hour out of every hour sitting quietly reading and not watching games. I have also promised not to yell at the kids and we have devised a new system (including a referee's whistle - Ian Rout's suggestion :) ), for setting up at the beginning of the evening (which I am sure causes 3/4 of the stress).

antichrist
27-05-2005, 04:47 PM
Jenni, I will PM you useful (?) advice if you like?

jenni
27-05-2005, 04:57 PM
Jenni, I will PM you useful (?) advice if you like?
How can I resist an offer like that?

Rincewind
27-05-2005, 05:30 PM
How can I resist an offer like that?

It's called: adding antichrist to your ignore list. It not only answers your direct question, it doubtless will do more for lowering your blood pressure than anything Pete would be suggesting. ;)

paulb
28-05-2005, 04:18 AM
Not too aware of what happens in divorces, but I had this idea that the man mainly "coughs up" for the kids? Or do you view kids as owned by the woman and the man should procreate without responsibility?

Many do, unhappily. the SMH mag had a sorry piece about cranky divorced men the other day ... probably accurate but not helpful

antichrist
28-05-2005, 10:07 AM
Many do, unhappily. the SMH mag had a sorry piece about cranky divorced men the other day ... probably accurate but not helpful

I can understand to a point cranky divorced men but don't agree with them.

It is clear from posters on this BB that a majority of people are bitchy, liars and bastads who will fillibuster, obstruct etc all for the sake of face and being bastards. How do we expect marriages last when people are like this.

jenni
28-05-2005, 06:25 PM
I can understand to a point cranky divorced men but don't agree with them.

It is clear from posters on this BB that a majority of people are bitchy, liars and bastads who will fillibuster, obstruct etc all for the sake of face and being bastards. How do we expect marriages last when people are like this.
I really, really do not view the BB as respresentative of the world at large.
I think you have to have a bit of a bizarre personality to post here regularly. (the women who post here are excepted of course - we just like being able to socialise with men and not have to limit ourselves to chic flicks and coffee mornings :whistle: )

Mischa
28-05-2005, 07:02 PM
:)

ursogr8
29-05-2005, 03:55 PM
I really, really do not view the BB as respresentative of the world at large.
I think you have to have a bit of a bizarre personality to post here regularly. (the women who post here are excepted of course - we just like being able to socialise with men and not have to limit ourselves to chic flicks and coffee mornings :whistle: )



OOOOOOOOOOOooaaaaaAAAhhhhhhhhh. This should be really good. :eek: :eek:


Would you like to expand with some details.
I don't mind being first, second.....after a/c....anywhere.


starter :drool:

antichrist
29-05-2005, 04:04 PM
OOOOOOOOOOOooaaaaaAAAhhhhhhhhh. This should be really good. :eek: :eek:


Would you like to expand with some details.
I don't mind being first, second.....after a/c....anywhere.


starter :drool:

Well being me I did not think I had a strong case to argue against, but you certainly go ahead and I will enjoy watching the fireworks. At least they can't go on strike against you.

Alan Shore
29-05-2005, 11:32 PM
What I find interesting is how marriage is financially discouraged these days.. it's becoming far more common to simply have a 'partner' than a wife/husband in order to procure extra benefits from the government. Such sanctity is fast becoming a relic... in one way it may be sad yet one must consider the differing cultural interpretations regarding the acquisition of mates eg. a polyandry/polygny.

antichrist
29-05-2005, 11:36 PM
Why are you getting all serious and emotional on a Sunday night, we have been arguing the whole weekend so now we are partying or go home

Alan Shore
29-05-2005, 11:42 PM
Why are you getting all serious and emotional on a Sunday night, we have been arguing the whole weekend so now we are partying or go home

I hardly think I'm emotional, more stating the facts!

As for the day, that carries little meaning for me.. I just work whenever.

antichrist
30-05-2005, 12:15 AM
Have a geek at Should FG7 have been barred, will warm the tootsies, Bill has been on tenderhooks ever since - so insecure that guy and he tries to hide it

Bill Gletsos
30-05-2005, 12:40 AM
Have a geek at Should FG7 have been barred, will warm the tootsies, Bill has been on tenderhooks ever since - so insecure that guy and he tries to hide itYou are deluding yourself A/C.

ursogr8
31-05-2005, 11:11 PM
I really, really do not view the BB as respresentative of the world at large.
I think you have to have a bit of a bizarre personality to post here regularly. (the women who post here are excepted of course - we just like being able to socialise with men and not have to limit ourselves to chic flicks and coffee mornings :whistle: )



OOOOOOOOOOOooaaaaaAAAhhhhhhhhh. This should be really good. :eek: :eek:


Would you like to expand with some details.
I don't mind being first, second.....after a/c....anywhere.


starter :drool:


Bump ttt

jenni
01-06-2005, 02:39 PM
This needs careful thought - my life is chaos. I am trying to get NECG camp sorted out before I go overseas (4 weeks). The suppliers have stuffed up delivery of the Belfort team jackets and half the ones I need to for NSW/QLD/ACT are still in Melbourne. It is end of the financial year and the Government is hiring lots of contractors (hooray) - all in all I don't have time to play much on the BB. However an answer will be forthcoming (how many enemies can I make in one post I wonder?)

ursogr8
01-06-2005, 02:43 PM
^
Rather than how many enemies a more relevant metric might be how many of those green globes you lose.

regards
starter

ps
At your own pace.

jenni
08-06-2005, 03:44 PM
OOOOOOOOOOOooaaaaaAAAhhhhhhhhh. This should be really good. :eek: :eek:


Would you like to expand with some details.
I don't mind being first, second.....after a/c....anywhere.


starter :drool:

Ok my list

Major Bizarre

Matt Sweeney - had planned to put him on even before the unbanning, as his ghost had lingered on. I guess he heads my list because his BB personality and his real one seem quite different. (or maybe its just repressed?)
Kaitlin - I don't believe its a girl
Anti-Christ
Firegoat7 - the scary thing is I have agreed with a number of his posts recently - what is happening to me :wall:
Bill Gletsos - really respect Bill for what he does and the friendly way he does it, but on the BB he just can't resist a fight......
Cat
starter - because he can be deliberately mischievous

Minor Bizarre


Arosar - he reminds me of Bridget Jones' gay friend - the one who when her 2 lovers start fighting, rushes into a restaurant, collects his gay friends and screams "fight!!" - he likes nothing better than some gossip and eagerly gathers round at a whiff of scandal.
Biggles
Cincinnatus
ggrayggray
jeffrei
kegless
BFG (can't resist this one)

ursogr8
08-06-2005, 04:20 PM
Ok my list

Major Bizarre

Matt Sweeney - had planned to put him on even before the unbanning, as his ghost had lingered on. I guess he heads my list because his BB personality and his real one seem quite different. (or maybe its just repressed?)
Kaitlin - I don't believe its a girl
Anti-Christ
Firegoat7 - the scary thing is I have agreed with a number of his posts recently - what is happening to me :wall:
Bill Gletsos - really respect Bill for what he does and the friendly way he does it, but on the BB he just can't resist a fight......
Cat
starter - because he can be deliberately mischievous

Minor Bizarre


Arosar - he reminds me of Bridget Jones' gay friend - the one who when her 2 lovers start fighting, rushes into a restaurant, collects his gay friends and screams "fight!!" - he likes nothing better than some gossip and eagerly gathers round at a whiff of scandal.
Biggles
Cincinnatus
ggrayggray
jeffrei
kegless
BFG (can't resist this one)

Thanks jenni for taking the time to respond.

I am a bit aggrieved by your response given that it seemed to promise so much a week or so back. I laid out lots of shillings on getting this thread into the top ten list on the basis you would come back with something really controversial.
Bugger me, all that you have done describe me mates good points. :eek:

I now suspect what will happen is that this thread will absolutely die in the XXXX.
And I will be left with the last word/post on The Philosophy of Marriage. If that happens, my SWMBO will give me a whack around the ears.

thanks, but no thanks,
starter

;)

jenni
08-06-2005, 04:26 PM
Thanks jenni for taking the time to respond.

I am a bit aggrieved by your response given that it seemed to promise so much a week or so back. I laid out lots of shillings on getting this thread into the top ten list on the basis you would come back with something really controversial.
Bugger me, all that you have done describe me mates good points. :eek:

I now suspect what will happen is that this thread will absolutely die in the XXXX.
And I will be left with the last word/post on The Philosophy of Marriage. If that happens, my SWMBO will give me a whack around the ears.

thanks, but no thanks,
starter

and this of course is why you are on my most bizarre list.....

Also, I have to say in order to spend as much time on the BB as some people do, one is left with the impression that they have far too much time on their hands. The normal run of home, family, social life seems to have passed them by. Thus perhaps the views expressed are not the normal run of mill views....

Libby
08-06-2005, 04:35 PM
and this of course is why you are on my most bizarre list.....

Also, I have to say in order to spend as much time on the BB as some people do, one is left with the impression that they have far too much time on their hands. The normal run of home, family, social life seems to have passed them by. Thus perhaps the views expressed are not the normal run of mill views....

Now you have to watch out for the rebound on that one ...

I certainly agree with BFG. Doesn't even bother posting in the chess forums - one wonders what he's doing here :hmm:

Hate to think he was checking up on someone :whistle:

antichrist
08-06-2005, 05:35 PM
Ok my list

Major Bizarre

Matt Sweeney - had planned to put him on even before the unbanning, as his ghost had lingered on. I guess he heads my list because his BB personality and his real one seem quite different. (or maybe its just repressed?)
Kaitlin - I don't believe its a girl
Anti-Christ
Firegoat7 - the scary thing is I have agreed with a number of his posts recently - what is happening to me :wall:
Bill Gletsos - really respect Bill for what he does and the friendly way he does it, but on the BB he just can't resist a fight......
Cat
starter - because he can be deliberately mischievous

Minor Bizarre


Arosar - he reminds me of Bridget Jones' gay friend - the one who when her 2 lovers start fighting, rushes into a restaurant, collects his gay friends and screams "fight!!" - he likes nothing better than some gossip and eagerly gathers round at a whiff of scandal.
Biggles
Cincinnatus
ggrayggray
jeffrei
kegless
BFG (can't resist this one)

I love your one on AR, and you are jealous of Kaitlin as she gets all the guys in.

jenni
14-06-2005, 04:06 PM
A few people have asked me why I put kegless in. This is my list of bizarre BB personalities - not the personalities they exhibit in real life. Kegless was there, for his habit of posting and then deleting - very frustrating you are always left wondering what exciiting posts might have been removed from your view.....

antichrist
14-06-2005, 07:44 PM
A few people have asked me why I put kegless in. This is my list of bizarre BB personalities - not the personalities they exhibit in real life. Kegless was there, for his habit of posting and then deleting - very frustrating you are always left wondering what exciiting posts might have been removed from your view.....

Do you think he has a kinky side? I thought maybe because of funny words used.